DECEMBER 16, 2010 – AFTER YOU

The statistics on murder-suicide tell us that it’s not a common thing. The statement is that it involves fewer than one out of every 100,000. Which I find an interesting statement as murder suicide would seem to involve at least two people.

Last year the state of Oregon had 14 deaths from murder-suicides. With a population of 3,825,657, this puts them lower than the statistical number, actually. Though this article I found suggests that 14 is a statistical spike for Oregon. Oregon Article on Stats (sometimes journalism majors forget to study for their math courses.)

Anyway, that’s not my focus today.

It’s an alien mind to me, the one that would kill others and then oneself. But then, it’s alien to me that ancient pharaohs and kings’ servants would entomb themselves alive with their dead monarchs to volunteer to accompany them to the afterlife. We are an odd-duck species with the most asshat beliefs sometimes.

Now, with the advent of Facebook and MySpace and other social pages, the murder suicide appears to have evolved to this: Yikes!. Early this year, 25-year-old Stephen Garcia killed his 9 month old son, Wyatt, and then himself on a San Bernardino hiking trail. He posted his intentions on Facebook.

He had been trying to “win” back his ex-wife, who he had previously hit and abused. Associated Press reported that he’d threatened to do this while on a court-ordered visit with his son. Mom, Katie, went before a judge for a restraining order and was refused. Court judgment quote: “There is no threat to petitioner or the minor child.” Interesting.

We’ll never really know what goes through the mind of a murder/suicide perpetrator, for obvious reasons. Unless there’s a legitimate John Edward out there who knows stuff without asking 5 hundred leading questions. It’s one thing to lose all hope for yourself and clock yourself out. But to take your family with you? That’s one huge case of inappropriate entitlement. Especially if you don’t ask first. Not at all cricket.

Of course, this is just one case. But it also illustrates how someone close to a future perpetrator knows that something very bad is going to happen. That murder is afoot. And that someone or those people are never taken seriously. Even by law enforcement or judges. And then “BOOM”. It’s too late. Because we, as a society, do not invest any effort in studying the beforehand behavior and giving it any credence or legal weight. And because law enforcement is reactive, not (as in the film “Minority Report”) proactive.

Stephen Garcia would be 26 today. Getting his life together after finding a good psychiatrist who has him properly medicated and attending twice a week therapy sessions for anger management and obsessive/compulsive behavior.

Wyatt would be 1-1/2 today. Walking his first steps and growing his baby teeth. Probably saying a few words as well. Like, “Daddy.”

I.B. Crabby

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